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Dating with kids after divorce…?

What seems like a good amount of time to date before living with someone again if there are children involved?

It depends on a lot of things. Each child will feel differently about the situation. I would expect a full commitment to myself and my kids (marriage) before living together.
Don’t forget to discuss rules and discipline. Are you willing to let him discipline your children? If so, does he know all the rules and proper consequences? If you don’t want him disciplining, can he accept that? Will your children show him respect without him being given parental authority? Will the children have a chance to get to know him well before he lives in the same home with them? Will the children have to move out of their current home and into his? That could be a major factor if they have to adjust to both at the same time. Are you children already well adjusted? There are just so many factors that there’s no way to put a generic time frame on it.

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how long should a divorced mother start dating (kids 6 years old)?

When she feels ready. IMO: I mean she doesn’t need to be introducing any man she is dating to her child, moms need grown up time too though. But only when she thinks it is serious and that the relationship is going somewhere should the man be introduced to the child.

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divorced with kids dating single people with no kids…any hints?

i am a single father with 3 kids (10,8,6). I have them every other week. I am starting after a year since my divorce to date. I felt it was important for the kids and I to have some healing and rebuilding time. Now that I am open to dating I am being approached by single gals with no kids. I have heard a lot of horror stories of single parents dating single people. I want to do this right. I know that I do want to be in a committed relationship. My kids are well behaved, respectful, good grade getting, sunday school attending kids who answer yes ma’am and yes sir. They want me to “have someone to go to movies with”. They know I want that. Does any one have any wisdom to share for this situation. What to avoid, what to absolutley do, what to prepare for….etc. Has anyone done it and failed or done it and succeeded and want to share how/why? I’d love some ideas and guidance from the experienced.

Been there done that. And quite honestly….Your facing relationships that will be a challenge. I am not saying it can’t be done I am just saying it will be a bit more challenging.
There are people out there unable to have children who truly want them. And there are the ones who don’t have them that think they want them. Only to find out they can’t cope with it all.
Keeping your relationship totally honest and always including your children in your decisions is the best policy.
I have dated a few men with no children. Two didn’t work out at all because of controling issues, insecurties, and simply because they couldn’t understand something they never had to deal with before.
Then I dated a man who had no children when I had 2. I always made it quite clear to him my children are one of the most important things in my life and they came first in most situations. That his opinions were always considered and appreciated but the final decisions were mine and thier Fathers.
There are many obstacles in this type of relationship.
Don’t allow your partner to play the guilt trip game. And always watch them around your kids.
Don’t allow the children to control the relationship. Because they will try, trust me.
It is hard to balance at times.But it can be done.
Being a parent is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do let alone trying to sustain a healthy realtionship with another adult.
By the way, the man I dated with no kids…
We have 4 of our own now.

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When is it ok for your kids to start thinking about dating after divorce?

If your spouse not only cheated but with a family member and the kids and you found out after a long divorce..when can you start to think about dating? I don’t want to hurt them more and my kids have forbid me (saying, “NO MAMA, no boyfriends! You have us!” etc) to even think about it, so here I sit after a few years thinking maybe now? But I have tested it out saying things like “I think I want a boyfriend” etc and they just laugh and hug me and say the same old “NOOOOO MAMA YOU HAVE US!” HELP!! lol

Well if the divorce is over and its been a few years and you are interested in dating I would go ahead and do it. As much as you love your children, there is a such thing as them being too attached. I am not sure if the ex was abusive, but usually kids wouldn’t react that way. Especially, in todays society — because divorces aren’t rare. But if they are really like this, I would wait until all the children have reached 7th grade, by then they should understand relationships.

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