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What do I say to a friend who’s dating a loser?

My friend was just asked out and this is her first boyfriend. He’s a loser and has dated other girls in our group. I want to tell her that he’s just trying to get a girlfriend because he is obviously going around the group, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings because it is her first boyfriend. Any suggestions?

Say nothing, you will only hurt her feelings if you tell her you think her boyfriend is a loser, and especially so if you tell her that you think she isn’t special to him, just next on his list as he goes around the group. If you can’t tell her anything that she doesn’t already know (eg if he was cheating on her and she didn’t know that), then don’t tell her things that are merely your observations which she could really make on her own. You’ll only risk your friendship if you do that!
She must be aware of his history with the other girls seeing as she is in your friendship group too, and yet she has made the choice to date him. I know it’s hard, but sometimes we have to step back and let our friends make their own mistakes. I wouldn’t say anything negative to her about him, especially not if it’s unsolicited. Be tactfully honest if she specifically asks you though. For the sake of the friendship, I’d avoid being too negative about her boyfriend; just be there to pick up the pieces and be her shoulder to cry on when it’s over.

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cheap dating ideas for couples

What are some fun, cheap date ideas for a married couple on a low budget? We live in Orange County, CA.?

I’m not sure about there, but some ideas from where I live might work, if you can find similar places:

There is an indoor mini-golf that is glow in the dark. It is loads of fun, and lots of adults go, especially in the evening. There is a also a second run cinema here, that charges $4.25 for movies ($3 for kids anytime, and for matinees before 6pm). The movies are after the main theatres, but before they come out on video. Also a great way to see a movie you are not sure you will like. If you do - great! If not, well, it’s only a few bucks.

Picnics are fun, especially in a nice park, or on a beach. Some museums can be very inexpensive, even free. They are often smaller, local ones, but some of them are really good.

Driving around the richest part of town, and comparing houses can be good. Pointing out houses you’d never want to own because of some flaw is fun. Like you’d ever own a multi-million dollar house anyway!

A weird one, but one that I’ve heard about is to do something together for the community. Like, volunteering to serve a meal at a soup kitchen. It makes you appreciate each other a lot more, does good, and costs you nothing.

How about an inexpensive, but exotic restaurant? Like some cuisine you’ve never tried before. Like Thai, Indian, Vietnamese…. whatever you can find, but not in a very fancy place.

How about a games party? More of a party rather than a date, but invite a bunch of friends over to play the games you used to play when you were kids - Monopoly, Mouse Trap, or whatever you have.

Can you tell I’m cheap? I’ve done pretty much all of the above!

Good luck to you.

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